I’ve written before about William’s friend J, whose parents have separated and who lives 50/50 between his Mum & Dad.
Although his mother, R, has always been perfectly pleasant and hasn’t ever done anything to offend me particularly (other than not turning up to a restaurant that I’d made a group booking for, after saying she would – note to self: take cash deposits next time – she wasn’t the only one!), there’s something about her I just don’t like.
I can’t stand her ex-husband either – anybody who turns up to Speech Day at school with a book and proceeds to read all the way through proceedings, doesn’t get my vote of likeability I’m afraid. Not to mention regularly picking his son up from school in a helicopter (although it hasn’t been much in evidence since the credit crunch hit – ha ha!) – how unnecessary and ostentatious is THAT! He also turned up to a drinks party at one of the other parent’s houses a while back with a bottle of wine (as you do). When asked what he would like to drink, he said white wine, was given some, took a sip, and said ‘I can’t drink that – can I have the wine I brought with me’. Good thing it wasn’t my party, I can tell you.
Anyway, I digress. Will was round at J’s house on the afternoon they broke up from school for the Easter holidays, and when I went to collect him, R, the mother, was rushing round busily and told me she was packingfor a holiday to Mexico the following day, cruising down the coast whale-watching. I made all the right noises, and said to Jamie how much he must be looking forward to his holiday. ‘I’m not going’ he said. R was going away on holiday with her new boyfriend (sorry, fiance) for three weeks – the entire school Easter Holiday – and leaving her child with his father.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure his father does an excellent job of looking after him, but the things I don’t really ‘get’ are:
a) Why would anybody want to be away from their child for THREE WEEKS, and particularly miss out on spending ANY of the school holidays with them? She returned from her trip the day after the start of term.
b) How did J feel about this?
c) How can you not want to share an experience such as a holiday, and more particularly whale-watching, with your nine-year-old child – they would just LOVE it?
And this is the reason I don’t like her. I think she’s selfish, and I think she puts herself first.
Am I being too harsh? Would love to hear what everybody else thinks about this one.