It was Ashley’s mother’s birthday yesterday.
I made a decision at the beginning of this year (a resolution, if you will) that I was going to take a bit of step back from Ashley’s family, in order to try and be less involved with various situations that I find stressful and unpleasant. Sorry to sound so oblique, but the dirty laundry isn’t really mine to wash in public, if you know what I mean.
Anyway, the plan seems to have worked so far, and has also avoided some of the round-and-round, no-solution rows Ashley and I had, so all good.
I emailed Ashley at work last week to remind him that his mother’s birthday was yesterday. When he got home, I checked that he’d received the email. I asked him if he was going to get a present and card, and he said he’d get something in Edinburgh. Fair enough, I thought.
Now, prior to my ‘stepping back’, I always bought his family’s birthday cards, wrote them, bought the gifts, wrapped them, etc etc. None of them ever remember my birthday, I might add. But I made it clear to Ashley in January that I wasn’t going to do this any more, and to give him his due, he was absolutely fine about it.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, Ashley has invited his mother around for a Chinese takeaway this evening, to celebrate her birthday. He’s at work at the moment and is picking her up on the way home from work tonight to bring her here.
Her present, such as it is (a tin of teabags from Harvey Nichols – yes, I have expressed the opinion that this is not really an acceptable birthday gift for one’s mother), is sitting, unwrapped, on the kitchen surface, directly in front of the door through which she’ll be entering the house.
Her card, as far as I’m aware, is in a bag on the floor of our bedroom, unwritten.
All this despite me telling Ashley last night where the wrapping paper is located, and reminding him that the card needed writing.
Sooooooo – do I wrap the present and write the card so it’ll be ready when she gets here (with me cringing in embarrassment that we’ve bought her tea bags for her birthday)?
Or do I leave it all where it is and let Ashley deal with it when he gets home?
Which would you do?